Tag: starting over

  • Who Was That Person?

    Who Was That Person?

    A story about becoming…

    Have you ever caught your reflection and marveled at how much you’ve transformed? That old version of you seems like a distant memory, doesn’t it?

    That’s how it felt to me.

    I’ve evolved into a better version of myself. And I’m not done yet; the journey of self-improvement is ongoing.

    Keep in mind, no one does it alone. We all need a helping hand.

    The push to change often comes from tough times. When others doubted me, it only stoked the fire within to prove them wrong. I refused to be the person who wallowed in sadness and anger.

    The most significant support were my friends. They saw the struggle, provided a steady stream of encouragement, and stood by me when I wavered. Their reminders of my progress were my beacon of hope.

    To anyone facing challenges or doubting their ability to change: hold on. It does get better, much better. But it’s also true – it may get worse before it gets better.

    You might feel like giving up, believing that change is beyond reach. But remember Randy Pausch’s words: “The brick walls are there to show us how badly we want something.” They’re not barriers; they’re tests of determination. Look up Randy Pausch if you don’t know who he is.

    Stay the course, and eventually, you’ll look back at your former self with wonder, barely recognizing that person. If you don’t give up, one day when you see your reflection, you’ll ask yourself, “Who was that person?”

    And when that moment comes, you’ll recall this re-assurance: it’s all part of the journey.

    Keep moving forward.

    ©️2024 Suzette Seveny

  • Autumn’s Message

    Autumn’s Message

    The summer had drawn to a close, much like the remnants of my previous life. I had spent the hot, humid days packing up my house in Georgia and moving across the country. It wasn’t quite like “Go west, young man”, more like “Go anywhere but here, young woman”, and so I’d gone north, to start again.

    I was starting this leg of my journey alone. I’d lost my husband, Bryan, in the early spring from COVID-19, and it has taken me this long to manage all that I had to deal with – the estate, the funeral, selling the house and buying a new one. Somewhere else. Somewhere without Bryan. Somewhere without memories.

    I was an only child, and I lost my parents six years ago. Bryan and I were never blessed with children, so after he passed away, I realized that I was truly alone, for the first time in my life.

    The days were getting shorter now, and the leaves on the maple tree in the front yard of my new house were turning a vibrant shade of orange. I’d missed that, living in Georgia – the changing of the seasons; the changing of life. Of losing one thing but gaining something new. Even the sunsets were becoming more vibrant, a rich mosaic to accompany the dying sun, followed by the hauntingly blue hues of the rising moon. A flock of geese in V formation flew overhead, heading south, honking out their farewell message.

    Life was changing, there was no doubt about that. From Georgia to Boston, the scenery was as different as day and night. Fall was a season of preparation – since the beginning of time, the turning of leaves has signified the start of winter preparations. My ancestors gathered supplies to get them through the long, cold winters in northern Quebec, chopping wood for stoves, making quilts, salting meat, and preparing jars of preserves to sustain them. They even saved pig fat for oil lamps and candles to light the way on those dark, cold nights.

    I have been gathering and preparing as well. I have garnered all of my strength and I seldom allowed myself to wallow in self-pity. I had left behind a career in corporate finance and taken a chance on opening a small gift shop and I know it’s going to take some time to feel at home in my new community, but I have an idea that might help me get to know the people in my neighbourhood

    With Hallowe’en approaching, I’ve overheard people talking about how nervous they are about letting their children go out trick or treating, so I decided to open my shop as a drop-off location for treats. I’ll use my own gift bags and create little grab bags for different ages of children, and then instead of having to go door to door on October 31st, parents can bring their children by the shop to collect a gift bag full of treats from all their neighbours. That would also let parents go out with their children instead of having to stay home and shell out.

    I’ll need a costume, of course, something memorable. I just remembered I had a serving wench costume that I haven’t worn in years. I will wear it this year while I’m serving treats to children and spiked hot chocolate to parents. That will be memorable, right?

    Bryan and I loved Hallowe’en, and we always made our front yard look like a cemetery. We used to go to parties dressed like famous (or infamous) couples – Sony and Cher one year, Bonnie and Clyde the next. Continuing the tradition this year will be a great way to remember my time with him, bittersweet though the memories will be.

    Time to get busy – there are flyers to make and then drop off at the houses in my neighbourhood, so people will know my idea. This will be a great way to meet my neighbours!

    I can hardly wait to get started!

    ©️2020 Suzette Seveny